update copy_if_nosync to take a pointer to store the counter #5946

Job	Run time
wheel-build-cugraph-equivariant / compute-matrix	3s
checks / other-checks	35s
devcontainer / build (amd64, 12.5, conda)	55m 49s
devcontainer / build (amd64, 12.5, pip)	1h 0m 14s
checks / check-style	2m 5s
wheel-build-cugraph-equivariant / 11.8.0, 3.10, amd64, rockylinux8	3m 5s
wheel-build-cugraph-equivariant / 12.5.1, 3.10, amd64, rockylinux8	3m 12s
wheel-build-cugraph-equivariant / 11.8.0, 3.11, amd64, rockylinux8	3m 5s
wheel-build-cugraph-equivariant / 12.5.1, 3.11, amd64, rockylinux8	3m 17s
wheel-build-cugraph-equivariant / 11.8.0, 3.10, arm64, rockylinux8	2m 41s
wheel-build-cugraph-equivariant / 12.5.1, 3.10, arm64, rockylinux8	2m 47s
wheel-build-cugraph-equivariant / 11.8.0, 3.11, arm64, rockylinux8	2m 43s
wheel-build-cugraph-equivariant / 12.5.1, 3.11, arm64, rockylinux8	2m 50s
conda-cpp-build	0s
wheel-build-pylibcugraph	0s
conda-python-build	0s
conda-cpp-tests	0s
conda-cpp-checks	0s
wheel-tests-pylibcugraph	0s
conda-python-tests	0s
docs-build	0s
conda-notebook-tests	0s
wheel-build-cugraph	0s
wheel-build-nx-cugraph	0s
wheel-tests-nx-cugraph	0s
wheel-tests-cugraph	0s
wheel-build-cugraph-dgl	0s
wheel-build-cugraph-pyg	0s
wheel-tests-cugraph-dgl	0s
wheel-tests-cugraph-pyg	0s
wheel-tests-cugraph-equivariant / compute-matrix	2s
wheel-tests-cugraph-equivariant / 12.5.1, 3.10, amd64, ubuntu22.04, v100, latest-driver, oldest-deps	9m 11s
pr-builder	0s
	2h 31m 39s

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