Optionally de-vendor libmdbx

[SamWilsn]

When packaging for Linux distributions (in my case, Gentoo), it's generally the policy to link against the system-wide installed versions of a library rather than bundling it. The pattern I've used in this PR is similar to what's used by openssl-sys and other crates.

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