kgo: add Buffered{Fetch,Produce}Bytes

This slows down fetching a little bit. If it is egregious, we can fix
the perf by tracking the size buffered when processing the fetch itself,
and then adding a new field to batch-untrack the size. That's left as an
exercise for a person that cares.

This is now done since the prior commit introduces buffered produce
bytes, and we may as well add it while fetching for both-sizes
consistency, and we may as well expose it.

pkg/kgo/consumer.go

@@ -162,6 +162,7 @@ func (o Offset) At(at int64) Offset {
 
 type consumer struct {
 	bufferedRecords atomicI64
+	bufferedBytes   atomicI64
 
 	cl *Client
 
@@ -285,6 +286,13 @@ func (cl *Client) BufferedFetchRecords() int64 {
 	return cl.consumer.bufferedRecords.Load()
 }
 
+// BufferedFetchBytes returns the number of bytes currently buffered from
+// fetching within the client. This is the sum of all keys, values, and header
+// keys/values. See the related [BufferedFetchRecords] for more information.
+func (cl *Client) BufferedFetchBytes() int64 {
+	return cl.consumer.bufferedBytes.Load()
+}
+
 type usedCursors map[*cursor]struct{}
 
 func (u *usedCursors) use(c *cursor) {

pkg/kgo/producer.go

@@ -88,6 +88,13 @@ func (cl *Client) BufferedProduceRecords() int64 {
 	return cl.producer.bufferedRecords.Load()
 }
 
+// BufferedProduceBytes returns the number of bytes currently buffered for
+// producing within the client. This is the sum of all keys, values, and header
+// keys/values. See the related [BufferedProduceRecords] for more information.
+func (cl *Client) BufferedProduceBytes() int64 {
+	return cl.producer.bufferedBytes.Load()
+}
+
 type unknownTopicProduces struct {
 	buffered []promisedRec
 	wait     chan error // retryable errors

pkg/kgo/source.go

@@ -323,16 +323,24 @@ func (s *source) hook(f *Fetch, buffered, polled bool) {
 	})
 
 	var nrecs int
+	var nbytes int64
 	for i := range f.Topics {
 		t := &f.Topics[i]
 		for j := range t.Partitions {
-			nrecs += len(t.Partitions[j].Records)
+			p := &t.Partitions[j]
+			nrecs += len(p.Records)
+			for k := range p.Records {
+				nbytes += p.Records[k].userSize()
+			}
+
 		}
 	}
 	if buffered {
 		s.cl.consumer.bufferedRecords.Add(int64(nrecs))
+		s.cl.consumer.bufferedBytes.Add(nbytes)
 	} else {
 		s.cl.consumer.bufferedRecords.Add(-int64(nrecs))
+		s.cl.consumer.bufferedBytes.Add(-nbytes)
 	}
 }