diff --git a/src/connector/src/sink/clickhouse.rs b/src/connector/src/sink/clickhouse.rs
index c506f00e6d2ca..44581a8e7387f 100644
--- a/src/connector/src/sink/clickhouse.rs
+++ b/src/connector/src/sink/clickhouse.rs
@@ -61,20 +61,22 @@ pub struct ClickHouseCommon {
     pub database: String,
     #[serde(rename = "clickhouse.table")]
     pub table: String,
+    #[serde(rename = "clickhouse.delete.column")]
+    pub delete_column: Option<String>,
 }
 
 #[allow(clippy::enum_variant_names)]
 #[derive(Debug)]
 enum ClickHouseEngine {
     MergeTree,
-    ReplacingMergeTree,
+    ReplacingMergeTree(Option<String>),
     SummingMergeTree,
     AggregatingMergeTree,
     CollapsingMergeTree(String),
     VersionedCollapsingMergeTree(String),
     GraphiteMergeTree,
     ReplicatedMergeTree,
-    ReplicatedReplacingMergeTree,
+    ReplicatedReplacingMergeTree(Option<String>),
     ReplicatedSummingMergeTree,
     ReplicatedAggregatingMergeTree,
     #[expect(dead_code)]
@@ -94,6 +96,22 @@ impl ClickHouseEngine {
         )
     }
 
+    pub fn is_delete_replacing_engine(&self) -> bool {
+        match self {
+            ClickHouseEngine::ReplacingMergeTree(delete_col) => delete_col.is_some(),
+            ClickHouseEngine::ReplicatedReplacingMergeTree(delete_col) => delete_col.is_some(),
+            _ => false,
+        }
+    }
+
+    pub fn get_delete_col(&self) -> Option<String> {
+        match self {
+            ClickHouseEngine::ReplacingMergeTree(delete_col) => delete_col.clone(),
+            ClickHouseEngine::ReplicatedReplacingMergeTree(delete_col) => delete_col.clone(),
+            _ => None,
+        }
+    }
+
     pub fn get_sign_name(&self) -> Option<String> {
         match self {
             ClickHouseEngine::CollapsingMergeTree(sign_name) => Some(sign_name.to_string()),
@@ -110,10 +128,16 @@ impl ClickHouseEngine {
         }
     }
 
-    pub fn from_query_engine(engine_name: &ClickhouseQueryEngine) -> Result<Self> {
+    pub fn from_query_engine(
+        engine_name: &ClickhouseQueryEngine,
+        config: &ClickHouseConfig,
+    ) -> Result<Self> {
         match engine_name.engine.as_str() {
             "MergeTree" => Ok(ClickHouseEngine::MergeTree),
-            "ReplacingMergeTree" => Ok(ClickHouseEngine::ReplacingMergeTree),
+            "ReplacingMergeTree" => {
+                let delete_column = config.common.delete_column.clone();
+                Ok(ClickHouseEngine::ReplacingMergeTree(delete_column))
+            }
             "SummingMergeTree" => Ok(ClickHouseEngine::SummingMergeTree),
             "AggregatingMergeTree" => Ok(ClickHouseEngine::AggregatingMergeTree),
             // VersionedCollapsingMergeTree(sign_name,"a")
@@ -146,7 +170,12 @@ impl ClickHouseEngine {
             }
             "GraphiteMergeTree" => Ok(ClickHouseEngine::GraphiteMergeTree),
             "ReplicatedMergeTree" => Ok(ClickHouseEngine::ReplicatedMergeTree),
-            "ReplicatedReplacingMergeTree" => Ok(ClickHouseEngine::ReplicatedReplacingMergeTree),
+            "ReplicatedReplacingMergeTree" => {
+                let delete_column = config.common.delete_column.clone();
+                Ok(ClickHouseEngine::ReplicatedReplacingMergeTree(
+                    delete_column,
+                ))
+            }
             "ReplicatedSummingMergeTree" => Ok(ClickHouseEngine::ReplicatedSummingMergeTree),
             "ReplicatedAggregatingMergeTree" => {
                 Ok(ClickHouseEngine::ReplicatedAggregatingMergeTree)
@@ -399,9 +428,16 @@ impl Sink for ClickHouseSink {
         let (clickhouse_column, clickhouse_engine) =
             query_column_engine_from_ck(client, &self.config).await?;
 
-        if !self.is_append_only && !clickhouse_engine.is_collapsing_engine() {
-            return Err(SinkError::ClickHouse(
-                "If you want to use upsert, please modify your engine is `VersionedCollapsingMergeTree` or `CollapsingMergeTree` in ClickHouse".to_owned()));
+        if !self.is_append_only
+            && !clickhouse_engine.is_collapsing_engine()
+            && !clickhouse_engine.is_delete_replacing_engine()
+        {
+            return match clickhouse_engine {
+                ClickHouseEngine::ReplicatedReplacingMergeTree(None) | ClickHouseEngine::ReplacingMergeTree(None) =>  {
+                    Err(SinkError::ClickHouse("To enable upsert with a `ReplacingMergeTree`, you must set a `clickhouse.delete.column` to the UInt8 column in ClickHouse used to signify deletes. See https://clickhouse.com/docs/en/engines/table-engines/mergetree-family/replacingmergetree#is_deleted for more information".to_owned()))
+                }
+                _ => Err(SinkError::ClickHouse("If you want to use upsert, please use either `VersionedCollapsingMergeTree` or `CollapsingMergeTree` in ClickHouse".to_owned()))
+            };
         }
 
         self.check_column_name_and_type(&clickhouse_column)?;
@@ -470,6 +506,9 @@ impl ClickHouseSinkWriter {
         if let Some(sign) = clickhouse_engine.get_sign_name() {
             rw_fields_name_after_calibration.push(sign);
         }
+        if let Some(delete_col) = clickhouse_engine.get_delete_col() {
+            rw_fields_name_after_calibration.push(delete_col);
+        }
         Ok(Self {
             config,
             schema,
@@ -567,16 +606,30 @@ impl ClickHouseSinkWriter {
                             ClickHouseField::Int8(1),
                         ));
                     }
+                    if self.clickhouse_engine.get_delete_col().is_some() {
+                        clickhouse_filed_vec.push(ClickHouseFieldWithNull::WithoutSome(
+                            ClickHouseField::Int8(0),
+                        ))
+                    }
                 }
                 Op::Delete | Op::UpdateDelete => {
-                    if !self.clickhouse_engine.is_collapsing_engine() {
+                    if !self.clickhouse_engine.is_collapsing_engine()
+                        && !self.clickhouse_engine.is_delete_replacing_engine()
+                    {
                         return Err(SinkError::ClickHouse(
                             "Clickhouse engine don't support upsert".to_string(),
                         ));
                     }
-                    clickhouse_filed_vec.push(ClickHouseFieldWithNull::WithoutSome(
-                        ClickHouseField::Int8(-1),
-                    ))
+                    if self.clickhouse_engine.get_sign_name().is_some() {
+                        clickhouse_filed_vec.push(ClickHouseFieldWithNull::WithoutSome(
+                            ClickHouseField::Int8(-1),
+                        ));
+                    }
+                    if self.clickhouse_engine.get_delete_col().is_some() {
+                        clickhouse_filed_vec.push(ClickHouseFieldWithNull::WithoutSome(
+                            ClickHouseField::Int8(1),
+                        ))
+                    }
                 }
             }
             let clickhouse_column = ClickHouseColumn {
@@ -654,11 +707,16 @@ async fn query_column_engine_from_ck(
     }
 
     let clickhouse_engine =
-        ClickHouseEngine::from_query_engine(clickhouse_engine.first().unwrap())?;
+        ClickHouseEngine::from_query_engine(clickhouse_engine.first().unwrap(), config)?;
 
     if let Some(sign) = &clickhouse_engine.get_sign_name() {
         clickhouse_column.retain(|a| sign.ne(&a.name))
     }
+
+    if let Some(delete_col) = &clickhouse_engine.get_delete_col() {
+        clickhouse_column.retain(|a| delete_col.ne(&a.name))
+    }
+
     Ok((clickhouse_column, clickhouse_engine))
 }
 
diff --git a/src/connector/with_options_sink.yaml b/src/connector/with_options_sink.yaml
index 731bb900335ee..cd560699b812f 100644
--- a/src/connector/with_options_sink.yaml
+++ b/src/connector/with_options_sink.yaml
@@ -84,6 +84,9 @@ ClickHouseConfig:
   - name: clickhouse.table
     field_type: String
     required: true
+  - name: clickhouse.delete.column
+    field_type: String
+    required: false
   - name: r#type
     field_type: String
     required: true